Let’s be honest: making friends as an adult is different than it was when we were kids. Back then, proximity did most of the work — you became friends with the kids on your street or in your class simply because you saw them every day.
As adults, we have to be more intentional. But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Here are five ways to meet new friends:
1. Join Interest-Based Groups
Whether it’s a book club, a hiking group, a pottery class, or a running club, shared interests give you an automatic conversation starter and common ground to build on. Look for groups on Meetup, Facebook, or through local community centers.
2. Volunteer for Causes You Care About
Volunteering puts you in contact with like-minded people who already care about something you care about too. The shared purpose makes conversation natural and relationships more meaningful.
3. Attend Events and Workshops
Girlfriendz events are designed exactly for this — bringing together women who are looking for connection. But expand your horizons too: attend talks, workshops, conferences, and community gatherings in your area.
4. Be the One Who Reaches Out First
One of the biggest barriers to friendship is waiting for someone else to make the first move. Instead, be the initiator. Invite a coworker for coffee. Text that mom you chat with at pickup. Suggest a second hangout after a first meeting goes well.
5. Cultivate Patience and Consistency
New friendships rarely happen overnight. They require showing up repeatedly over weeks and months. Give new connections time to develop, and prioritize consistency over intensity.
Remember: every deep friendship started with a first conversation. You already know how to do this — you just need to put yourself in situations where those first conversations can happen.